Posted this on a forum I belong too. Wanted to save it because of the "wholly trinity."
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Seriously? Come on
Bill, you just avoided going bankrupt for the second time. You
pushed your student debt back onto the taxpayer and now you’re
ready to spend again? SMH. You’ve mentioned in the past that you
have a problem with spending, yet you’re ready to make a major
purchase less then a month after acquiring a windfall? Why not try
something more productive for your own future growth? The reality is
that this is your last chance with having any form of savings… any
form of financial security.
Why not leave the
money in a financial institution for a year and learn to live on just
what you earn? It will teach you the value of a dollar and help
separate wants from needs and if you truly need something you will
work for it. It is also very freeing to know that money is there but
that you can live without it. If you can do that for a year, then do
what you want with it. I bet if you did that for a year you’d
realize that having it in savings is relaxing and it didn’t
disappear or burn a hole in your wallet. You’ll gain some
self-respect and see that the things you want can be gotten with
patience and a plan.
I’ll let you in on
my major plan. I want to buy a house boat. I want to live on the
English canals on a boat. It is a very relaxing laid back lifestyle.
I’ve been researching it for over a year and right now I could get
a pretty nice one with cash. Then I’d need a simple source of
income for mooring fees and insurance as well as upkeep. I can
easily do it right now. Instead my plan is to wait a couple more
years. During that time, I’ll still be researching it and saving
more money. If I do it right, I can live on the water for ten years
with no worries about any fees or insurance premiums.
It will be more
rewarding to me when everything happens because I worked for it and
earned it and so can fully enjoy it. The rest is just pscyho-babble
which has helped me, hopefully you will read it, if not, no problem,
I need to see it myself every now and then…
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Every person has
three “beings” within them. In me, I call it my “wholly
trinity.” These three characters are my inner-child, my
inner-parent, and my inner-adult. Now imagine all three are on a bus
riding across the country. In a healthy person, the inner-adult is
riding the bus. He is managing every curve, watching uncoming
traffic, and obeying the speed limit. Behind him, sharing a seat is
the inner-parent and the inner-child. The parent has his arm around
the child’s shoulder, and pointing out everything on their journey.
He pointing to the beautiful mountains and the lovely lakes. The
child, with eyes wide open is enjoying it all, realizing he is safe
and free. This is a wholesome and healthy inner-family.
Now imagine the
opposite – an unhealthy inner-family. The child is riding the bus,
the parent is in the rear of the bus ignoring the child, reading the
newspaper, while the adult is yelling at the parent to take charge.
The child doesn’t care about curves or sped limits or anything
else… everything he wants, he wants RIGHT NOW, no matter the
consequences. When “stuff hits the fan” the child cries and
whines that it isn’t his fault. The parent hides behind the seat,
and the adult tries to protect the other two by pointing fingers at
everybody else, instead of accepting any responsibility for the
child’s actions.
The conclusion is
that the child is never wrong. We all need to have dreams, yet it is
the responsibility of the parent to say no to the child and to be a
parent and not a friend. If the parent can do that then the adult
can ride the bus knowing that everyone has a place and everyone is
responsible within their place.
I spent the majority
of my life with my inner-child riding the bus, going from one
disaster to another. Form unemployment, to homelessness, to
addiction and alcoholism, to finally finding financial security and
peace.
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