tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4518149204330034733.post4560115680412680693..comments2023-02-17T08:25:54.871+00:00Comments on Dreaming with Dave: Recovery from divorceDave Harmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01838473668095238490noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4518149204330034733.post-21212775572642667802011-12-05T10:46:18.457+00:002011-12-05T10:46:18.457+00:00Its difficult to handle this issue,when you have n...Its difficult to handle this issue,when you have no one with you..<br /><br /><br /><a href="http://www.sampleforms.org/category/divorce-forms" rel="nofollow">Divorce forms</a>Ruby Clairehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01710522322446393469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4518149204330034733.post-20749628566074710722011-12-04T15:55:49.660+00:002011-12-04T15:55:49.660+00:00From Authors Den
Reviewed by Robert Cosmar 5/19/...From Authors Den<br /><br />Reviewed by Robert Cosmar 5/19/2011<br />I wish you good luck in getting this published, Dave. An honest look and clearly written -- been there and done that, myself.<br /><br />Reviewed by Rod Haynes 3/31/2009<br />Heart-felt and honest. Clear. Good communication. I think this is a good piece of writing. And if it is therapeutic, so be it! So much of writing is just that.<br />Congratulations. I don't have the strength to seek a divorce myself.<br /><br />Reviewed by Gwendolyn Thomas Gath 3/10/2009<br />Great write and extremely heartfelt as well.<br />Dave I am glad you are letting God work through you.Dave Harmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01838473668095238490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4518149204330034733.post-78113238175921327672011-12-04T15:54:29.546+00:002011-12-04T15:54:29.546+00:00From Authors Den
Reviewed by Linda Settles 1/13/...From Authors Den<br /><br />Reviewed by Linda Settles 1/13/2009<br />You have come so far, Dave, and learned so much. Thank you for sharing. God bless you and wife he has gifted to you as you walk the healing pathway.<br /><br />Reviewed by KJ Jacobs 1/12/2009<br />Thanks Dave for sharing your story. Isn't it amazing that after everything is said and done, you can look back and see that what she meant to hurt, ended up a growth process of your psychological make up. I have had similar situations. God showed me that things aren't always what they seem to be. God bless you and your new wife! KJ Jacobs<br /><br />Reviewed by Annette Mckenny-Harris 1/10/2009<br />WOW! The very same thing happened to me. One of the hardest things to reckon with while going through is that SOMEONE ELSE is going through the same exact thing and that we are not alone. Just as I have, I'm glad you chose to accept and move on. God bless you!<br /><br />Reviewed by Kerry Compton Star Girl 10/25/2007<br />Interesting words, Julie..I was one that thought I was totally blameless in my divorce...my marriage ended rather awful and all were apalled at my then husband's behavior. I now realize that I had a part in it as well...my part was that I allowed myself to be played, I put my husband first the majority of the time...his schedule, his wants, his desires, his career always ALWAYS came first and I thought this was fine...then one day he just up and left to be with another woman. I now realize that my passiveness allowed this to happen, but I must admit that in retrospect I am very, very glad that it did end. Today marks the third year anniversary of the end of a union that I was always second, rarely an equal and I am eternally grateful that he left. I now realize that his leaving was the best thing that he could have ever done for me. My only regret is that it ended so bitterly and i wish that one day he would have enough courage to admit that HOW he went about things was not the kindest and that it could have been handled with a WHOLE lot more maturity.<br /><br />Reviewed by Julie Donner Andersen 10/24/2007<br />While I could relate to most of this, I believe it takes two to tango. Not one person in the divorce is innocent. Until you ("you" being a general term) actually LEARN from your mistakes, ther eis no growth, and you just end up recycling the same past mistakes into a new relationship.<br />Very thoughtful and courageous write, Dave. Hard to read with all the unnecessary commas, but worth plowing through to the end.<br /><br />Reviewed by Walt Hardester 9/1/2007<br />Thank you Dave for this, for I too feel I was addicted, to her to my ilfestyle, and the comfort these thing brought....It's been eight months now. still no divorce, it's in the works. but today I played 18 holes of golf, once a weekly pleasure. and I honestly felt like myself again. Dammit, I can't believe I let her control me for ten years, thinking only of her happiness and abandoning myself.Dave Harmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01838473668095238490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4518149204330034733.post-62382257244505698922011-12-04T15:52:13.289+00:002011-12-04T15:52:13.289+00:00From Authors Den...
Reviewed by Damaa -- 7/23/20...From Authors Den...<br /><br />Reviewed by Damaa -- 7/23/2005<br />Thanks for your comments on my page. You said so many powerful things in this piece and I can tell that you understand what I am going through during my own break-up. Some things that really struck a cord with me were:"We both knew our future together, would be destructive and dysfunctional, if we remained united. " This is so true but strangely enough a lot of people ignore that important signal. "Whether, if it was for the best or if I could have done better, the truth was, at the time, I was scared, lonely, and full of pain....But the pain was real. The "emptiness" - huge." Oh my goodness, this statement is SO true. No matter how awful the relation was to live through, you wind up with a huge whole in your life once they are gone. You think you can deal with it but it is evident almost immediately. " We all deserve that. To be loved and wanted." Another statement that is so true but glossed over but people who are willing to settle for just having someone there no matter how badly they are treated. Humans are innately loving creatures. We are taught to hate through the absence of love in our lives. Nice write.<br /><br />Reviewed by The Smoking Poet 7/11/2005<br />Even when walking away is the right thing to do, even when a relationship is deeply flawed, still we feel pain. For us who write, our work can be a part of our healing, as I imagine yours has been for you.<br /><br />Reviewed by Jackie (Micke) Jinks 5/25/2005<br />Loss of spouse by divorce can be compared to loss by death; many of the same emotions are experienced in both cases. I lost my spouse by death, but I read we both had the same misgivings of our lives ahead. Faith, family, and friends help so much, but it is companionship that provide us with the needed stability - I have my special pet cats :o) You've written some important directions for others with this piece, Dave.<br /><br />Reviewed by Tracey L. O' Very 4/11/2005<br />Heartfelt and a very scarey thing.<br />Thanks so much Dave hope it gets to others... wish you all the best. you have a lot of help to offer to all.<br /><br />Reviewed by M. B. 3/25/2005<br />Dave, you beautifully portrayed the difference between being wanted and being needed. I applaud you for breaking the bonds and the curse of co-dependency which can be the most difficult kind of addiction to end.<br /><br />Reviewed by m j hollingshead 3/23/2005<br />thought provoking read<br /><br />Reviewed by Karen Lynn Vidra, The Texas Tornado 3/21/2005<br />heartfelt write, dave; very well done! bravo!<br /><br />Reviewed by Tinka Boukes 3/20/2005<br />Deeply touched by this read Dave!!<br />Bittesweet...but thank God you came out a better person...right??<br />Much to ponder here!!<br /><br />Reviewed by L. Figgins 3/20/2005<br />Honest and heartfelt account. Nothing is wasted in this life, as all pain can be counted toward our growth. We are told to "look forward"...<br /><br />Reviewed by Jerry Bolton 3/20/2005<br />Except for the overuse of a lot of commas, this was a well-written tragedy with a happy ending, tale. I wish you the best.Dave Harmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01838473668095238490noreply@blogger.com