tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4518149204330034733.post1094618832054753233..comments2023-02-17T08:25:54.871+00:00Comments on Dreaming with Dave: To be or not to be.........angry! Dave Harmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01838473668095238490noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4518149204330034733.post-7263294826308583422013-05-06T09:58:14.653+01:002013-05-06T09:58:14.653+01:00(((Dave))) You are most definitely NOT a bad thing...(((Dave))) You are most definitely NOT a bad thing! I totally understand where you're coming from, I still get that parrot on my shoulder trying to deflate and demonise me. Now I tend to tell that parrot where to go. I am learning to trust me, to trust my emotions and instincts. Whenever somebody tries to tell me anger is wrong I simply quote Jesus in the temple. If it's OK for Jesus then it's OK for me *smiling* Blessings to you ! <br />Snowie.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4518149204330034733.post-87578932999829708642013-05-06T00:20:04.330+01:002013-05-06T00:20:04.330+01:00I do agree with you Snowie... we are "trained...I do agree with you Snowie... we are "trained" to think that anger serves no useful purpose in our recovery. Yet is a vital emotion we all have.<br /><br />My first sobriety, I never dealt with my anger and bottled it up until it exploded into rage...<br /><br />I am getting better of maintaining control and releasing anger in a constructive way...<br /><br />On the other side of the coin, when you wrote, "I can be angry with those I love, and I expect to be able to be open and honest about it. I expect the same from them. It doesn't mean I don't love them and doesn't mean that they don't love me! "<br /><br />That is something I still struggle with. It is the CODA in me and the ACOA that says to me, "I didn't do a bad thing... I am a bad thing."<br /><br />Something I still work on everyday...Dave Harmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01838473668095238490noreply@blogger.com